Dis-ease An Illness Of The Mind
Pain is felt in the body in the present. All pain is felt today. You cannot physically feel something yesterday or tomorrow. You can remember the pain of the past, and anticipate a pain in the future, but you can only feel pain in the present.
Pain felt in the body can be depicted on a pain time-line. Negative emotion is felt in the body as stress. All emotion is felt in the present at various levels of intensity; low, medium and high. Each time you experience a negative emotion, such as a hurt in the present, anger or resentment from memory, or fear and anxiety from perceived pain in the future, you are adding to your store of stress.
Accumulation of negative emotion in the body is stress – emotional constipation. The stronger you feel an emotion in your body, the greater the amount of stress that is accumulated in your body.
Deepak Chopra describes the cycle of emotions in his book, “Ageless Body, Timeless Mind”. Cognitive appraisal, he explains, arouses only two impulses – pain or pleasure. “We all want to avoid pain and experience pleasure. Therefore, all the complicated emotional states we find ourselves in are because we are unable to obey these basic drives.”
Chopra explains the cycle of emotions that reoccurs in everyone’s life countless times. It begins in the present reality ” where only pain and pleasure are felt ” and ends in complex emotions rooted in perceived reality (past and future) – such as guilt and depression. The cycle is as follows:
* Pain in the present is experienced as hurt.
* Pain in the past is remembered as anger.
* Pain in the future is perceived as anxiety – a lessening of mental relaxation, associated to the alert reaction.
* Unexpressed anger – redirected against yourself and held within – is called guilt.
* The depletion of energy that occurs when anger is redirected inward creates depression.
The cycle of emotion tells us that stored hurt is something we all have experience of to some degree, and is responsible for a wide range of emotional constipation. Chopra says, “Buried hurt disguises itself as anger, anxiety, guilt, and depression.” To live in the present we need to learn to avoid the easy emotion – anger, and deal with the hurt that is more difficult to confront. Unresolved anger will only grow worse, feeding on itself.
Sometimes you can cause another person pain by what you do or say. This external event may be intentional or unintentional, and may also create a pain for you; guilt, remorse, shame, and regret – that is, stress. For example, people who use ineffective communication often drag up “history” in arguments to hurt their partner. Their perception is that their partner has hurt them or is “blaming” them in some way. They are using a conditioned response to ease their own pain felt in the present, not realizing the physiological impact their behavior is having on their own body.
Emotional constipation – emotional distress – is “dis-ease”; an illness of how you think. You are what you think. How you feel depends on how you think. You can use the pain time-line to help you understand emotional constipation and the stress you feel in your body.